January 17, 2006
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Manners continued…..
The other night my daughters both had guests over for dinner.
Now let me
clarify right from the start… I am by no means Miss Manners. I have a
tendency to be way to casual. I’m also the type of person that
regardless of how hard I try, there will be crumbs around my plate when
I’m done eating. However, my mother instilled manners in us from the
time we were little. Don’t talk with your mouth full, get your elbows
off the table, don’t reach, say please, chew with your mouth closed…
etc, etc.So we are eating
and I’m sitting next to my youngest dd’s friend who I’ve admittedly had
issues with in the past. As she’s eating… she’s sharing every bite
with the entire table. Her mouth is open, we get to see and hear
everything.Now… this is a
BIG pet peeve of mine. It totally grosses me out to have to eat with
that near me. I endure for 10 minutes or so, then casually without
looking up from my plate say “who ever is chewing with their mouth
open… please close it”. This earns me a few short blessed
minutes of quiet eating. A few minutes later…. smack, chew, pop,
smack. :: heavy sigh:: I asked once more for her to close her
mouth this time more directly.Question: Was I
rude for correcting a guest’s habits? The guest is like a third
daughter, she is here 24/7. I think I may have become too casual with
her. At the same time…. shouldn’t SOMEONE eventually let her know
that’s bad manners??? From what youngest dd says… the entire family
eats like that and friend was actually better at our house than she is
at home.Who’s manners need adjusting??? Do you think that manners are not be stressed enough today?
Comments (11)
Well you know her really good. I think when you know them that well, you can get away with that. If you don’t I guess you just have to bite your tongue.
Hmmmm, that is a sticky one. I think if this girl is there that often, you can probably safely correct her. But still, what an awkward situation! I hate correcting other people’s kids, and when they are teens, it’s almost like correcting an adult… just awkward all the way around…
RYC That was funny about biting your tongue with your mouth closed:lol:
I was only in Germany for a short stay, but I really liked it there. How cool that you got to live there for three years. Do you get to know the German lang well you were there? I am not good on learning other lang. I have a hard enough time with English lol
After reading this I paid real close attention to my kids at dinner and they need more help than I thought!
Crap.
3 1/2 is just a horrible age to have to witness with food.
I have noticed manners more lately as my children are having friends over and going to friends more often. My children are both well mannered as I am more uptight about it than most!..They both say yes sir, no maam, please thank you may I and so on…My son had a little friend over for a sleep over and The respect and manners he held for me was impressive to say the least!!! It was refreshing and I was more than ready for him to visit again!!..Then my daughter ahd her little friend over and OMG! I was appaled at her bossy attitude and this was not just with Jaidan but me as well!! Get me a drink I m thirsty!! Needless to say she doesnt come over often however I had NO trouble correcting her bad attitude and manners in my home! She was told while here she will respect me and my home and its rules or not come back. I guess the situation depends on the action taken however when in Rome……muah sis
I’ve got a couple of adopted daughters myself…if THEIR mom’s not gonna teach them proper manners, then someone has to…may as well be us. I say this, after I yell at my daughter for using her fingers for gosh sake to eat her spaghetti noodles last night! WTF? I KNOW she wasn’t born in a barn! But yeah, correct ‘em…firm believer in it takes a village to raise ‘em right.
i think you did right by correcting her on that. Im sure it will make her think differnt when she does it again.Plus it will help her when she gets older..If Parents are helping her least she is getting it from you..
yes, you did the right thing. It’s not polite in company to show *abc* food. If this girl was doing that she was being rude and since she is a child, she needs correcting.
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