November 15, 2006
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Welcome to Wednesday
So, as usually the Wednesday curse holds out.
Silver_Fangz is sick — AGAIN! So today we returned to the specialist who thinks it may be chronic sinuaitis. Long term antibiotics (heavy duty ones again),and prednisone. Then we will do a ct scan of her sinus in 3 weeks and reevaluate. Fun.
Last night her 18 (almost 19) yo want-to-be boyfriend came over to have a talk with hubby. Since we found out they were dating behind our backs Silver_Fangz has been in isolation zone — she’s grounded for 2 weeks, limited computer time and no cell. Then for the next 2 weeks her friends can come over here, but she still goes nowhere except with family. Hubby and wanna-be BF worked out a deal that if they behaved for 2 months (after her grounding is up) and still felt the same way we would met again to discuss the possibilities. It’s a very complicated situation. We’ve looked at all the sides and we just can’t condone her dating someone that much older than her. <Sigh>.
Last night I took Squirt to her new gymnastics class (had to switch when she went to back to school). I listened to 3 parents talk trash about little kids and spread rumors and gossip. I was so tense by the end of the class I was almost flying apart! The pressure caused by me not commenting and pointing out that grown-ups trashing little kids in an effort to feel superior and make their kids look better was truly pathetic, almost gave me a stroke. I decided I better not stay for class any more. Otherwise I might just end up banned for life.
Today I have a headache and 3 chapters in 2 text books to read. Then assignments to read. Hoorah. Once again we have been broadsided by Wednesday. The upside…. only 8 and 1/2 more hours until Thursday!!! Hooray!!!LOL — Alright, off to take some meds and do some reading. Have a great night everyone!
Question of the day: Hold your tongue or speak your mind??
Comments (19)
I used to hold my tongue because I had this bizarre fear of confrontation but now I’m all about confrontation!
It’s amazing I still have friends..
I have insulted no less than 3 people today. Some of my friends got attacked multiple times. I tell them that they are the lucky ones.
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Evening! Thanks for stopping by. I think there was only a wave of a foot or so, so there probably wasn’t much on the news. I just got freaked when I heard the breaking news at lunchtime!
Ouch … sinusitus is sooo painful – we use Olbas oil … on the pillows … in baths … on the upholstery … in burners … on hankies!!! Come the winter, our home and car stink of the stuff! But sometimes even that doesn’t shift it! Hope she gets better soon! Serves her right for being naughty!
Hope you can come to a satisfactory conclusion with the bf situation! I am soooooooooooo dreading that stage! 
I hate gossip … I hate bitchiness. I’d probably not go back to class either cos I also hate confrontation!
What is Eragon like? I’ve seen it in the shops and wondered if it might be a good read. Hugs, Susan <><
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In that situation I would have spoken my mind, and have. Last season we had a dad on the sidelines of flag football yelling “What’s that kid doing, what’s he doing?!!” (as one of the younger kids ran the ball the wrong way) My husband was coach (he coaches all Trey’s sports) and my husband tends to let the kids PLAY and have fun, we win some games and we loose some but the kids all get a chance to play even if their not the next Paton Manning. Anyway this guy was really getting on my last nerve
so I told him he didn’t have to go home but he did need to leave the earshot of the other parents and players. He got huffy about the way my husband coached, letting all the kids play, I told him that if he didn’t like the coaching he was free to find another team. My husband has kids and parents calling all the time to find out what sport he’s playing for the season, he has a couple kids who will only play for him and who are willing to play whatever he coaches just to play for him. This guy was a real butt head! Some parents just take this stuff way to serious, Trey’s 8 for crying out loud. Anyway, didn’t mean to write a book on your blog 
that just brought back a bad memory.
Hope your dd is feeling better soon. Have a great night and a blessed tomorrow.
Teenagers are rough. Gah. It’s amazing any of them come through with parents left, because they’re killers. :whocares: And I guess my answer would be “should” hold my tongue but rarely do. LOL
Trish
Hmm. I have worked all my life at holding my tongue, but am really not good at it. I have, however, learned to be more diplomatic in my conversations. It wouldn’t do any good to say anything to moms like that, because they’re truly too stupid to act any other way. Best to wait in the car on that one. Good opportunity to read.
I’m pretty sure that actively raising teenagers is the reason we get old and demented. The only advice I can offer re the too old bf is that if he is forbidden, he will be all the more attractive. Maybe a compromise situation like they can have supervised visits at your house a few times a week, dates only one night on the weekend, at a public place, home early, etc. Good luck with this one. Keep us posted — I’m learning as I go along too. Why can’t someone who has successful young adults write a book about what to expect when you’re expecting teens?
wow you have alot going on there! I so not ready when Kayla becomes a Teenager i just dont know if i can deal with older boyfriend.I hope she feels better soon.depend on the situation if it really bothers me i speak out.
How is Squirt adjusting to school? And are you used to the time alone? :wave:
I would probably find some witty, biting thing to say to those obnoxious parents. They truly have no life to be living vicariously through their kids. I feel bad for their kids. If they’re like that in public, how much pressure are they applying at home?
Being a teenager sucks but having teenagers sounds like it’ll be even harder! I was the 15 yo wanting to date the older men. It was hard because I was more mature than my peers and looked a lot older. It sounds like you’re doing the right thing, though. Staying on top of the situation is hard but so important. She’ll be alright too. It’s the kids with parents who check out that really end up falling through the cracks and into trouble. I hope I remember this when mine are that age!
Hold your tongue or speak your mind? It depends on the situation, I guess. Sometimes it is better to hold your tongue, and sometimes you just need to speak your mind. But honesty is always the best policy.
I hate when I hear that stuff. We had to listen to that at one of the school soccer games. The other team was sitting on our side because it was too hot on theirs and then started trashing their own team. It was weird. I usually hold my tongue in situations like that because I don’t want any repercussions for Andrew. Otherwise, if he isnt’ involved I saw something. Just like when I hold the door for someone and they bust past me like god knows who and that I deserved to hold their door. Then you bet I say something.
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:wave: just popping in to say hi and i love ya darlin!!!
In your situation there I would probably have kept my mouth shut until I figured out the lay of the land. My inner voice would be yelling, but the other one would be telling me to pick my battles…now what the other voices would be saying would probably depend on how many of my personalities were involved
Good luck with the older BF thing. If he will respect your rules and behave, he “might” be OK, but that is a huge age difference at that age. I hope it will die a natural death and ease her out of it. I hope she feels better soon too. That sinus stuff is a royal pain…been there, and done that!
Oh that’s a toughy! I usually would try to interject something positive about the kid. But if it were my kid I would let them know to back off flat out. We had really good luck with our kids getting on positive teams with good parents. We did have one incident with one coach and the coach’s dad. The parents took it to the board and fired the coach and banned the dad from the AYSO fields. They had gotten into fisticuffs on the field with a dad who asked him to be nicer to the kids. So sad!!
As for your Teen issues- you go Mom & Dad!! You only get one chance to parent your kids. When you make a rule, stand on it. Keep comunication open and tell them every day that you love them and you are doing your best to help them grow up happy & healthy. You see a bigger picture and a 15 yo dating an adult is not a pretty picture. Be strong, you can do this!! emlee
I’m sorry to hear she’s sick again. I hope she’s better soon. I don’t envy you the hard decisions you have to make about the wanna be boyfriend. yeesh! That sounds like a sticky situation…
hold tongue or confront….I think it depends. With women who want to feel superior by trashing people who can’t defend themselves…to confront might mean they will turn and tear you or your daughter up. Confronting people like this doesn’t stop them but seems to give them new fodder to chew up…
I spoke up often enough to learn to hold my tongue. I think there’s times you have people who could learn from the confrontation, and people who would consider this fuel for their flaming tongues. You have to consider the minds of those you want to confront.
you ask tough questions…
Oh Man, I feel your pain sister! Sarah and the older male friends is a constant source of aggravation around here. None of them are boyfreinds, thankfully, but every single male friend Sarah has is 18 or older, we have met each and everyone of them, and have OK’d her spending time with them here at home, and allowed one of them to take her for coffee and meet up with his girlfriend and several other freinds (so a group thing), but there is no way I would be comfortable with her dating any of them, friends is OK by me….jeesh, these kids are making us old before our time.
As for your daughter being sick again!….I think that the long course of antibiotics is most assuredly the way to go, it seems to me that she must be a “carrier” and that does take long term antibiotics to wipe out, when Doug was a kid he was a Strep carrier, and he had to be on antibiotics for a year to get rid of that.
Oh, forgot to comment on the nasty parents at gymnastics….honestly, it is really pathetic that they would trash on kids!…Jeesh, I suppose that one can only feel pitty for them, but you are way more patient than I am, my mouth would have been running, and then I would have gotten up and told my daughter to call me when she was done, that I needed to go out and get some HEALTHY air and space…..but that’s just me.
I should hold my tongue more often than I do… Unfortunately, I am the queen of sarcasm, and my sharp tongue can cut people to ribbons, especially if they are trying to do the same to me or someone I care about, like my kids.
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AND I REALLY LIKE HIM.
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*hate*
points for saying ‘condone’ though.